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Please and Thank You Are Only A Part Of Good Manners

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grandmaY Said,

Don't get me wrong that is a good start but there is also consideration for others feelings, having respect when others are talking so as not to interrupt.

Not calling names or hitting each other, etc.

I am venting here but my grandchilden came for a visit, I don't get to see them as often as i like because we live so far apart, and I was a little surprised at their behavior. Don't get me wrong they are good kids and I love them dearly but my son seems to think the only part of manners they need to be concerned with is table manners.

I will say they all have beautiful table manners but manners are not just for at the table. My daughter-in-law seems to have her hands full trying to instill good behavior in them without much help from my son.

How do I support my daughter-in-law in this, without hurting my son's feelings?

Jones Said,

Start by complimenting your son on their wonderful table manners. Then tell him you are impressed with how they are raising the children.

You could even tell him you have a friend that had childen that are uncontrollable and has asked you for advice. Then ask him what he does when the childen get out of hand with hitting, rough housing, name calling, etc.

Now if he knows you already think he is lax in the department it won't work, but if you have bitten your tongue you may have some success with this. At the very least he will verbalize actions that should be taken to curb this kind of behavior and what a parent can do to instill good manners in their children.

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