Help! Timeouts Are Not Working!
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Having trouble with timeouts. My son just does not seem to respond well to them. It just does not seem like it is enough. He treats them almost like a game and then later goes back to the same behavior.
Usually when we give him a timeout we have a special chair that he must sit on quietly and we set a timer. When the time is done we talk about what he did to cause the timeout and how he should/could behave differently. Most of the time he gets off of the chair or makes funny sounds and goofs around until things start to really get out of hand. If he does goof around and not sit quietly we set the timer over and let him know that he must sit quietly until the timer goes off. This process just goes on and on and eventually we do succeed but patients wears a tad thin. Our other children respond real well to this except for this one son.
Is there any alternatives we could try? Or is there a better way to do timeouts?
We really need help.
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